straight boys think girls can’t take compliments, and that’s ridiculous cause i’ve seen so many girls compliment each other, i’ve seen conversations & friendships blossom from girls complimenting each other in line, on the street, at school waiting for the bys, pretty much anywhere.
the problem is straight boys think sexual harassment & assault are compliments.
Experts have repeatedly debunked the myth that transgender non-discrimination laws give sexual predators access to women’s restrooms, but that hasn’t stopped conservative media outlets from promoting fake news stories to fear monger about trans-inclusive bathrooms.
For as long as the transgender community has fought for protection from discrimination in public spaces, conservatives have peddled the myth that sexual predators will exploit non-discrimination laws to sneak into women’s restrooms.
That fear has been an extremely effective tool for scaring people into voting against even basic protections for transgender people, which is why conservatives routinely use the phrase “bathroom bill" to describe laws prohibiting discrimination in public accommodations. When conservative media outlets attack non-discrimination laws for transgender people, they almost exclusively focus on bathroom and locker room facilities.
But that fear is baseless - completely unsupported by years of evidence from states that already have non-discrimination laws on the books. In a new
Media Mattersreport, experts from twelve states - including law enforcement officials, state human rights workers, and sexual assault victims advocates - debunk the myth that non-discrimination laws have any relation to incidents of sexual assault or harassment in public restrooms
It seems to me that on one page I recognized a portion of an old diary of mine which mysteriously disappeared shortly after my marriage, and, also, scraps of letters which, though considerably edited, sound to me vaguely familiar. In fact, Mr. Fitzgerald (I believe that is how he spells his name) seems to believe that plagiarism begins at home.
—Zelda Fitzgerald, in a review of her husband’s book in 1922 (via trishahaddad)
Reminder that F. Scott Fitzgerald stole his wife’s writing, many times, while suppressing her works. See “Save Me the Waltz”, which he forced her to revise so that he could use parts of it in his own book “Tender Is the Night”. And which author do we study in school?
Yep. All true. Learned about his trifling ass studying creative writing and English lit. at CSU. Didn’t read ONE of her books on high school, yet we’re taught how amazing and talented he was. Makes me sick. xBx
I’ve heard this is pretty common among abuse survivors and I’ve gotten it a few times. It seems to be that they don’t want to believe rape happens as often as it does and try to convince the victim that it wasn’t rape so that they can keep their world view intact.
I don’t understand the logic that whoever is calmest in an argument is winning and that somehow anger invalidates your words. I mean I can argue that your great aunt’s name is Jihinksenbob for an hour straight and be perfectly fine. It’s very easy to be calm when the topic doesn’t affect you personally or you just don’t know what the hell you’re talking about.
Today I overheard two men in the pub discussing how "young girls are slags these days" because a 12 year old girl just became the UK's youngest mother, this in the same week as a serious sexual assault of a 10 year old girl literally a minutes walk down the road from where they were chatting. I just... ugh :(
When a 12-year-old becomes a mother and your first reaction isn’t “Who thought it was okay to have sex with a 12-year-old?”, you are part of the problem.
I'm sorry you went through what you did but I have to say I don't understand how such a smart, confident, beautiful girl like you could allow yourself to be treated that way by Luke. It doesn't make any sense to me that you would let him manipulate and use you like that. Sorry to say but he's not even that cute and you are way too good for him. I hope you find someone better who treats you right <3
This message has sat in my inbox for awhile and while I haven’t responded to most of the hundreds of anonymous messages I’ve received about this situation (which is still exhausting and emotionally draining to talk about publicly, so forgive me if I’m terse), I feel compelled to respond to this one simply because I think it’s representative of some damaging misconceptions & misunderstandings about victims of emotional abuse.
First of all, I understand that you’re trying to compliment me, so thank you for that. But intelligence, confidence, and attractiveness have little to no bearing on whether someone is susceptible to being victimized - anyone can be vulnerable to a sociopath, and all of the girls who have come forward about their abusive experiences in the past month or so have been smart, confident, attractive girls. In fact, sociopaths are excellent at identifying ways to use positive traits against their victims as weapons in the process of systematically breaking down their identity, autonomy, and self-esteem (see: Traits of the Pyschopathic Victim and Stages of the Psychopathic Relationship).
Two additional breakdowns of how emotionally abusive relationships work that I found extremely helpful in identifying how to categorize and come to terms with my own experiences, that might also help you & others who struggle to comprehend how victims of emotional abuse can “let” their abusers manipulate them: Covert Emotional Manipulation and How To Tell If You’re Being Manipulated. I recognized all of my experiences in those links, just as I’ve received so many private messages from girls who recognized their own experiences in my post and the posts of others - if you’ve been there, you Get It. You’re fortunate that you haven’t, and therefore don’t. Hopefully you never will.